Human mind is weird and complex and we are always in an eternal search to demystify this complexity. Our minds play games and we become victims of our mind. We start believing what others say, we take things personally, we make assumptions, we suffer from self rejection and we constantly live in a state of suffering assuming we are in a miserable situation and not being able to understand the fact that we are the ones who have created that situation for ourselves and if we have better self-control and power we will be able to alter such situations in future.
Our quest for personal freedom starts when we start asking questions to express what we really want. My journey started back in India and I took to books, articles on internet and few TV shows which never made any sense. Sudha Murthy‘s “Wise and Otherwise” and Subroto Bagchi‘s “Go Kiss The World“, “The High-Performance entrepreneur” and “The Professional”, helped me confirm with the right values but still I wanted to know more.
And then a good friend recommended “The Four Agreements” written by Don Miguel Ruiz. And I started looking at life in a very different way. This book gives four principles to practice to create love and happiness in your life. Adopting and committing to these agreements is simple. Actually living and keeping these Four Agreements can be one of the hardest things you will ever do. It can also be one of the most life changing things you will ever do.
As you practice living these four practices your life will dramatically change. In the beginning these new habits will be challenging and you will lapse countless times. With practice these agreements become integrated into your being and every area of your life and become easy habits to keep.
The Four Agreements are:
1. Be Impeccable with your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
Wow! isn’t that what we have done till date and keep creating webs of complexity in our minds thing the world is our enemy. I intend to practice these agreements to have more power and self-control over my mind and actions. Hope I keep getting at it *finger crossed*